David Duchovny Admits Parenting Insecurities: 'I Always Feel Inadequate'

David Duchovny reveals his nuanced views on fatherhood

by Zain ul Abedin
David Duchovny Admits Parenting Insecurities: 'I Always Feel Inadequate'
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David Duchovny, the two-time Golden Globe winner, recently spoke with PEOPLE magazine about the complexities and insecurities of fatherhood. At 63, Duchovny has enjoyed a multifaceted career as an acclaimed actor known for his roles in Californication and The X-Files and as a director, musician, and author.

Despite these accomplishments, his role as a father to daughter West, 25, and son Kyd, 21, brings him a profound sense of humility. “I'll always feel inadequate [as a parent],” Duchovny confesses. “Maybe I was a good parent, because my kids are great people, and they probably want to think of me as a good parent, too.

They don't want to think of me as a failure. I'm sure I've made mistakes, but we all have. So, I try and give myself more of a break”. This honest admission highlights the universal doubts and pressures faced by parents everywhere.

Balancing a bustling career with fatherhood has been a significant challenge for Duchovny. He reflects on the years spent juggling his professional endeavours with his parental duties, pondering the impact of his choices on his children.

“I was certainly working a lot when my kids were young," he says. "That's something I might have changed, but then again, it's also cool to model a person who's engaged with their life for a kid."

Duchovny Embraces Parental Challenges

In his journey through parenthood, Duchovny has evolved his views on what he desires for his children.

Moving beyond a wish for their smooth sailing, he now embraces the value of life's struggles and the growth they bring. “I realized I had wanted just smooth sailing for both of them and then I thought, ‘Well, that's a boring life,’” he shares.

“I should want great difficulty for them, I should want obstacles for them, I should want overcoming for them, I should want successes and failures for them”. This revelation speaks volumes about Duchovny’s philosophy as a parent - one that values resilience and the lessons learned from life's inevitable challenges.

His experiences and the unconditional love he shares with his children have taught him life's most meaningful lessons. Duchovny continues to explore themes of failure and recovery in his new podcast, Fail Better, produced by Lemonada Media.

With guests like Ben Stiller, Bette Midler, and Sarah Silverman, the podcast delves into the nuances of bouncing back from setbacks, underscoring Duchovny's ongoing commitment to understanding and conveying the complexities of human experience.

Fail Better is available to stream on Apple Podcasts and Spotify, offering insights that resonate with anyone navigating the highs and lows of life.