Michelle Obama Opens Up About the Challenges of Marriage and Parenting
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In a recent interview, Michelle Obama candidly spoke about the challenges her marriage to former US President Barack Obama faced, specifically during the early years of raising their daughters. The former first lady revealed that for a decade, she "couldn't stand" her husband and attributed the strain in their marriage to the difficulties of parenting young children.
"People think I'm being catty for saying this: it's like, there were 10 years where I couldn't stand my husband," Obama said in an interview with Revolt. "And guess when it happened? When those kids were little." She added, "For 10 years while we’re trying to build our careers and worrying about school and who’s doing what and what, I was like, ‘Argh, this isn’t even!’.
" Obama acknowledged that parenting can be a major source of stress in any marriage and that it's important to have realistic expectations about the challenges that come with it. "Little kids, they’re terrorists. They have demands.
They don’t talk. They’re poor communicators. They cry all the time," she said. "They’re irrational. They’re needy. And you love them. And so you can’t blame them, right? . . . So you turn that ire on each other”.
Despite the difficulties, Obama emphasized the importance of working through relationship challenges and maintaining a sense of respect and understanding for one's partner. "Do you like him? I mean, you could be mad at him, but do you still look at him and go, 'I'm not happy with you, but I respect you.
I don't agree with you, but you're still a kind, smart person?'" she said. Obama also highlighted the importance of maintaining a sense of perspective and not giving up on a relationship too soon, even when times are tough.
"Marriage isn’t 50/50, ever. Ever. There are times I’m 70, he’s 30. There are times he’s 60, 40," she said. "But guess what? Ten years. We’ve been married 30. I would take 10 bad years over 30 — it’s just how you look at it.
People give up — ‘Five years; I can’t take it.’" Ultimately, Michelle Obama's interview serves as a reminder that even the strongest relationships face challenges and that it's important to work through those challenges together in order to maintain a strong, healthy partnership.
It's also a reminder that no relationship is perfect and that it's normal to experience ups and downs, particularly during the early years of parenting. By staying committed to one another and showing understanding and respect, couples can weather any storm and come out stronger on the other side.